1. The ‘flaws’ that you see, no one else thinks are flaws
The freckles on your nose that you’ve always hated are actually really cute. You might have brown eyes instead of the blue eyes like that girl you follow on Instagram- but that’s okay! You are beautiful just the way you are, I promise. Remember, you are your own worst critic. Your friends are probably really jealous of your pale skin or your curves. Own it, girl!
2. There is not just one type of beautiful
Just because Miranda Kerr is beautiful, does not mean that you are not. Blonde, black, brunette hair; size 6 or 16, everyone is beautiful in their own way. I know it’s easy to compare yourself to a Victoria Secret model or the girl on the cover of Vogue, but remember that those girls have insecurities just like you! (They also get their breakouts photoshopped, lucky girls- wouldn’t it be cool if you could photoshop real life?).
3. True beauty is not skin deep
Ever met someone that just radiated beauty from within? Maybe they were really friendly and happy and that made their smile extra beautiful. Like Ellen DeGeneres says, “True beauty is not related to what colour your hair is or what colour your eyes are. True beauty is about who you are as a human being, your principles, your moral compass… Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about accepting who you are.” As cliché as it sounds, being beautiful on the inside is what matters most.
4. Don’t forget to be kind to yourself
Sometimes we are our own worst critics. ‘You are ugly, you are fat, you are not smart enough, not this, too that,’ you might sub-consciously tell your reflection in the mirror. The moment you stop putting yourself down and begin the journey towards self-love and self-acceptance, is the moment you can begin to be truly happy. Start doing nice things for yourself. Take a bath, buy a book, drink some tea, eat that cake. Self-care is so important for your happiness.
5. Start a self-esteem file
Now, this one might seem a bit far-fetched, but you’d be surprised how much power your words can have. When you’re having a particularly confident day, stand in front of a mirror and list all of the features that you like, and why you like them. You might like your hair, because of how long it is. You might like the shape of your nose. Then, sit down and list all of your good personality traits; your kindness, your compassion, how much of a good friend you are. Then, when you’re feeling down about yourself, read this list of the things you wrote because you believe them to be true, and feel the self-love!